The more you refrain from judging every event in your life as either good or bad and trust that good can come from any situation if you allow it, the more you open yourself up and allow yourself to attract that which will bring you joy.
Should you fail to pilot your own ship, don't be surprised at what inappropriate port you find yourself docked.
"The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars..."
After you have made your commitment to say no to what no longer serves you, you will probably be invited to demonstrate that you really mean it.
"My real self wanders elsewhere, far away, wanders on and on invisibly and has nothing to do with my life."
"Instead of having the rug pulled from under your feet, learn to dance on a shifting carpet."